This is especially so when you need to ascertain whether or not you can consider a long-term relationship with your woman. Read on to know how you can avoid getting involved in a marriage that may not work out.
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. Is she a practical spender of a carefree shopper?
This could possibly decide your financial status for the rest of your life, if not gauged before the marital vows are taken. Carefully assess her shopping and spending habits and make sure she can manage the household expenses well within her budget. If love blinds you, and you end up marrying a girlfriend who spends all her salary or pocket money on extravagances, you got a problem on your hands, buddy!
2. Does she get along with your parents?
A very important factor that will most certainly define the rest of your life with her is her conduct towards her in-laws. While a bit of masked tête-à-tête now and then may suffice during the courtship period, it may not prove fruitful in the long run. You do not, after all, want to spend the rest of your life making peace between the two most important women in your life, do you?
3. Do you feel that she care about you in a genuine way?
Of course, this does not mean you need a second mother, pampering you and fussing over your every need. What it does hint at is the care and concern the woman shows with respect to your health, work, feelings and others areas of life. A self-centered girlfriend may be fun to be with when you are putting up a chase, but as a wife, she may certainly land up chasing you up the wall! Certainly not a circumstance you would want to land up in, would you?
While it may not be easy to judge what a long-term relationship may bring with it, considering the above may definitely help. It is, nevertheless, important to remember that often people and their perspectives change with time and circumstances. Some of the ways in which you can get a glimpse of the future are as follows:
a) Live in
Obviously, while this is not a widely accepted phenomenon in our country, many couples are doing it. Although it can be argued that a live-in relationship give you the time and space to understand your partner, it's also a complicated arrangement that may end up with one or both parties feeling shortchanged. Living as a common law couple is beset with a lot of complications.
b) Hang out with her friends
It is true that a girl’s best friends are also the best folk to bring out the real person within her. Make plans to hang out with her friends more often. Ask them to come over, or go to the movies or dinner with the girls. Reciprocally, ask your girlfriend to chill with you and your friends. These are the instances when you will be able to tell whether or not you are comfortable in each other’s comfort zones.
c) Discuss
Communication is the key to a stable and long-lasting relationship. If you and your woman can talk about not only the most intimate, but even the most crucial topics such as finances, future planning and emotional ups and downs, without getting uncomfortable, you have won half the battle.
Marriage is a long-term affair and the decision to embark on it must be carefully weighed. While there is no foolproof method to ensure that it lasts forever, you can follow the above ideas to go as far as possible in making the correct decision.
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